May 16, 2009

Hi Piper,

I have a name that conjures up images of a little girl. I have blonde hair. I'm 5'2". Do you think i should change my name so people take me more seriously? Before you answer you should know I've tried the hair color thing. My skin just would not have me being a brunette. Blotchy, white, pink...I have too much vanity. My mother asked me if I was feeling self-destructive as a red-head. Black would make me look goth' or punk and I've shed all "image" outward representation. Thanks for your advice, in advance. 

--coworker

Dear coworker, 

The first thing I'm curious about is why you would want to be taken more seriously? That's when people start expecting things from you, things like professionalism, maturity and an ardent work ethic. Ewww. 

However, let's assume you have your reasons. Are you sure there's a direct correlation between your name and how you're perceived? Here's why I ask: Captain Kangaroo, Terry Gross, Condoleeza, Sissy Spacek, Dolly Parton, Yo Yo Ma...all taken seriously despite their names. 

I don't think you should change your name or change your hair color. But, have you thought about a nickname? A nickname can be a useful and powerful thing, especially if you get to choose it. Tell people to call you 'Nobel' because you once won the prize. Or, tell people to call you 'Heart Attack' because you're serious like one. Before you know it you'll be walking the office hallways with your head held relatively high, considering the 62" you're working with. 

--Piper